This Week
I am not sure what is going to happen this weekend? It is your call about having or not having small groups due to the weather. If you do cancel and have not finished lesson #5, please try to get your group together to finish that.
Speaking of finishing, it would be good to have the S.H.A.P.E. forms as soon as possible. You could put them in my mailbox. You can be telling everyone that we are planning to have a "Ministry Fair" (for lack of a better term for now) on Sunday, January 6. We will be going over job discriptions of committees and ministries in the church. Everyone is encouraged to attend so that we can get people involved.
This Spring
We are looking to begin the Spring 1:6 series January 20 and using every 1st and 3rd Sunday for 1:6. I am still hoping that we can start a few (at least two) new groups studying different subjects. One would be for young or curious believers and one would be more in depth. That was one of the reason I wanted to get together last week. (We still need to do that as well.) For now, know that we have picked material and are in the process of tweaking it for our use.
Here is what we are planning for the super bowl, February 3. That's a normal 1:6 night, so we are encouraging groups to either have a Super Bowl party with their group and or another group or so. Or, like before, this could be a night that you don't have 1:6. It is up to your group.
Other Announcements
We are planning to have a New Years Eve, Eve Fellowship on December 3o. We are looking for people who have skits, can sing, read, etc.
We are planning another Dinner Theater for February 1, 2, and 3 in the Family Life Center. We need two older men who would be interested in playing an ex-football coach and a policeman. Tickets will be $8.00, $6.00 for senior citizens (60 and older) and will be available December 23 and 30 to the church and January 3 to the public. Remember, this is an outreach and we NEED people to bring their unchurched friends. It is a very non-threatening way to introduce people to RMC.
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Helpful Hints #4
This article is taken from www.buildingsmallgroups.com. The web address for the article is here.
The Five "Ms" Every Leader Should Know
1. Minister to the needs of your members.
Okay, so that may seem obvious, but one of the critical roles of a small group leader is to shepherd the people in your group. Does the word "shepherd" scare you? It shouldn't. God has provided you with the gifts and abilities to care for those in your small group.
In a healthy small group, the members, as well as the leaders, must be "healthy." In fact, I would say that the success of your small group depends on its health. A healthy small group integrates all 5 biblical purposes into its life (for more information on the 5 biblical purposes, click here), but it's the leader's job to establish the biblical purpose of "fellowship" within the first few weeks of your group's existence.
As the small group leader, you need to pray for and "love on" each member of the group. That means making sure people feel connected with other members in the group, being attentive to what people say in the group - perhaps, for example, you may sense after the first several meetings that one couple in the group is struggling in their marriage. Your job as a leader is to pray for them. After you develop a deeper friendship with the couple, you may even suggest talking to a pastor or Christian counselor.
My point, simply, is that as the shepherd of the small group you need "eyes" to see the needs of your group.
2. Mentor their spiritual maturity.
An effective small group leader seeks to cultivate the spiritual habits of his or her group.
And how do you do that?
You must first know the condition of your "sheep"-those under your care. In the back of your mind, as you lead the group, you need to ask this for each person in the group, "What is the next step in his or her spiritual maturity?"
For an unmarried couple who is living together, they need to get married! That's their next logical step in obedience to Christ. For others, it may be baptism. Others may need to learn how to give or focus on their family or attend church more regularly or step up their service in the church or community.
3. Motivate the "shape" (spiritual gifts) of your members for ministry.
You, as the leader of the group, must model this principle. It's the "trickle down" approach to spiritual maturity. What your members see in you is what they begin to emulate in their lives.
Do your members know what your spiritual gifts are? Do they know you have the gift of leadership? Have you described to them your pathway in becoming a small group leader?
Are your group members growing in their gifts? Where are they serving now? Where should they be serving in 6 months or a year?
One of the key "shepherding" functions of a small group leader is to motivate each member to harness his or her spiritual gifts for service in God's kingdom.
4. Multiply the life and mission of your members.
It's not enough for your members to stay members. Every member must become a multiplier—to multiply their life through passing on the faith to others, through starting a new small group, through training others to assist in the development of the small group.
As a small group leader, your vision must be to see your group collectively—and its members individually—to take the next logical step in development. There must always be movement—growth towards reaching the mission of God's kingdom.
That may mean training another set of leaders to launch another small group. Or it may mean making sure the "empty chair" is always filled. Or, it may mean that you challenge group members to make a difference in their daily lives or profession.
Your role is to pour your life into your group members, so that they will pour their lives into others.
5. Model a surrendered heart.
Pride and arrogance and worldly leadership have no place in a small group. Never forget that what is happening in your group is the work of God Almighty. Not you.
If your leadership is effective, if your shepherding is making a difference in the lives of your members, expect spiritual warfare. That is, expect conflict, struggles, and trials. Satan loves to strangle healthy small groups through, for example, petty conflicts among members.
That's when you, the leader, need most to model a surrendered, humble attitude.
God works best in our weakness—when things are blowing apart—that's when God is strong. What is your Isaac? That is, what do you need to lay down on the altar to be consumed by the fire of God's presence? God loves the confessions and prayers of a broken and contrite heart. Worship God no matter what your circumstances with a thankful and hopeful heart. Your soul—and the very health of your small group—is at stake.
Copyright © LifeTogether.com. Visit LifeTogether.com to find resourcees that help your church transform communities through community.
1. Minister to the needs of your members.
Okay, so that may seem obvious, but one of the critical roles of a small group leader is to shepherd the people in your group. Does the word "shepherd" scare you? It shouldn't. God has provided you with the gifts and abilities to care for those in your small group.
In a healthy small group, the members, as well as the leaders, must be "healthy." In fact, I would say that the success of your small group depends on its health. A healthy small group integrates all 5 biblical purposes into its life (for more information on the 5 biblical purposes, click here), but it's the leader's job to establish the biblical purpose of "fellowship" within the first few weeks of your group's existence.
As the small group leader, you need to pray for and "love on" each member of the group. That means making sure people feel connected with other members in the group, being attentive to what people say in the group - perhaps, for example, you may sense after the first several meetings that one couple in the group is struggling in their marriage. Your job as a leader is to pray for them. After you develop a deeper friendship with the couple, you may even suggest talking to a pastor or Christian counselor.
My point, simply, is that as the shepherd of the small group you need "eyes" to see the needs of your group.
2. Mentor their spiritual maturity.
An effective small group leader seeks to cultivate the spiritual habits of his or her group.
And how do you do that?
You must first know the condition of your "sheep"-those under your care. In the back of your mind, as you lead the group, you need to ask this for each person in the group, "What is the next step in his or her spiritual maturity?"
For an unmarried couple who is living together, they need to get married! That's their next logical step in obedience to Christ. For others, it may be baptism. Others may need to learn how to give or focus on their family or attend church more regularly or step up their service in the church or community.
3. Motivate the "shape" (spiritual gifts) of your members for ministry.
You, as the leader of the group, must model this principle. It's the "trickle down" approach to spiritual maturity. What your members see in you is what they begin to emulate in their lives.
Do your members know what your spiritual gifts are? Do they know you have the gift of leadership? Have you described to them your pathway in becoming a small group leader?
Are your group members growing in their gifts? Where are they serving now? Where should they be serving in 6 months or a year?
One of the key "shepherding" functions of a small group leader is to motivate each member to harness his or her spiritual gifts for service in God's kingdom.
4. Multiply the life and mission of your members.
It's not enough for your members to stay members. Every member must become a multiplier—to multiply their life through passing on the faith to others, through starting a new small group, through training others to assist in the development of the small group.
As a small group leader, your vision must be to see your group collectively—and its members individually—to take the next logical step in development. There must always be movement—growth towards reaching the mission of God's kingdom.
That may mean training another set of leaders to launch another small group. Or it may mean making sure the "empty chair" is always filled. Or, it may mean that you challenge group members to make a difference in their daily lives or profession.
Your role is to pour your life into your group members, so that they will pour their lives into others.
5. Model a surrendered heart.
Pride and arrogance and worldly leadership have no place in a small group. Never forget that what is happening in your group is the work of God Almighty. Not you.
If your leadership is effective, if your shepherding is making a difference in the lives of your members, expect spiritual warfare. That is, expect conflict, struggles, and trials. Satan loves to strangle healthy small groups through, for example, petty conflicts among members.
That's when you, the leader, need most to model a surrendered, humble attitude.
God works best in our weakness—when things are blowing apart—that's when God is strong. What is your Isaac? That is, what do you need to lay down on the altar to be consumed by the fire of God's presence? God loves the confessions and prayers of a broken and contrite heart. Worship God no matter what your circumstances with a thankful and hopeful heart. Your soul—and the very health of your small group—is at stake.
Copyright © LifeTogether.com. Visit LifeTogether.com to find resourcees that help your church transform communities through community.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Scratch December 8
December 8 won't work - too many people hunting. Forgot about that. I'll get back to you about it soon.
Weekly 1:6 Blog - Nov 29
The S.H.A.P.E. forms are in your mailbox. These forms should be filled out by those who would like to be involved in the ministry of the church somewhere. Actually, everyone should fill one out if possible. Take some time to go over each section. There is a bunch of information in the teaching section with suggestions, etc. for your help with this. I don't expect this to be quick. But I hope it will begin to help people get a sense of what they should be doing and what can be done. We would like to get everyones form back after December 16. You could put them in the mailbox above mine at church.
Week #5 lesson is in your mailbox.
It might be possible to have a copy or copies of all the offices and committees in your mailboxes by Sunday as well. No guarantee.
Hopefully everyone got an email with a spiritual gifts analysis attached. Let me know if you would like copies of that made. Some don't but some of you might, so get back to me if you want some and how many. There are a lot of other good "tests" available. Don't be afraid to use something else. Also, remember to let everyone know that this is a tool - one help in determining what gifts God has given. It isn't exact. There is more information in the teaching section for spiritual gifts as well.
We meet this Sunday and December 16 as well. Week #5 is the last "lesson". I think there is plenty of information for a 6th week if you want more discussion. With the spiritual gifts and S.H.A.P.E. "tools" available, you could do those.
We STILL (arrrggghhh) haven't finalized plans for the spring 1:6 session. I am hoping that today Paul and I can get together - it will depend how long his appointments take. Please know that it is being considered.
I know this is a busy time of year, but I would like to get together for breakfast at Cruisers on Saturday, December 8 around 7:30 AM. This will give Pastor Paul and Aaron both the opportunity to be involved in the discussion. This isn't 100% but I want to finalize this on Sunday so please check your calendars and let me know, either way, (just add a comment on here or email me) so I can make plans. Also, I have to contact the owner of Cruiser's to make sure if that would be okay with him. haha
Week #5 lesson is in your mailbox.
It might be possible to have a copy or copies of all the offices and committees in your mailboxes by Sunday as well. No guarantee.
Hopefully everyone got an email with a spiritual gifts analysis attached. Let me know if you would like copies of that made. Some don't but some of you might, so get back to me if you want some and how many. There are a lot of other good "tests" available. Don't be afraid to use something else. Also, remember to let everyone know that this is a tool - one help in determining what gifts God has given. It isn't exact. There is more information in the teaching section for spiritual gifts as well.
We meet this Sunday and December 16 as well. Week #5 is the last "lesson". I think there is plenty of information for a 6th week if you want more discussion. With the spiritual gifts and S.H.A.P.E. "tools" available, you could do those.
We STILL (arrrggghhh) haven't finalized plans for the spring 1:6 session. I am hoping that today Paul and I can get together - it will depend how long his appointments take. Please know that it is being considered.
I know this is a busy time of year, but I would like to get together for breakfast at Cruisers on Saturday, December 8 around 7:30 AM. This will give Pastor Paul and Aaron both the opportunity to be involved in the discussion. This isn't 100% but I want to finalize this on Sunday so please check your calendars and let me know, either way, (just add a comment on here or email me) so I can make plans. Also, I have to contact the owner of Cruiser's to make sure if that would be okay with him. haha
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
O.C.C. Tuesday Video
Here is a quick edit of some highlights of our trip down to Operation Christmas Child. Taking the bus was the way to go for me! I am so much more rested. Enjoy the video.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
1:6 Update
The week four "Student" lessons are in your mailboxes. The spiritual gifts "test" is good but it is 20 pages long. I am trying to get Diane to work on this while I am away but it is Thanksgiving week. I think I am going to have to email it to everyone so you have it ahead of time.
Remember that we meet two weeks in a row . . . this week and December 2.
More soon.
Remember that we meet two weeks in a row . . . this week and December 2.
More soon.
Spiritual Gifts Test
I don't know if this will work or not. I have added a link to the Spiritual Gifts "test" from Dean. I will have them in your mailbox for this week, but thought you might like to see it first. Use them if you would like to this week or subsequent weeks or not at all? ? ?
Thursday, November 8, 2007
Weekly 1:6 Blog B
Three things we continually need to emphasize:
1. The "Pastor" is the ADMINISTRATOR; the member are the MINISTERS
2. Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needsof others
3. God wants to use me to help the church grow.
The next 1:6 group night is November 25.
Remember we have 4 more 1:6 weeks (including this week, Nov. 11) and only 3 more lessons. Let me know if you need any ideas for the extra week.
Don't forget about the small group teleconference, November 14 @ 4 PM EST. Click HERE for more information. Please let me know if you would like to listen with me.
The Deacons have been working on job descriptions for all the ministries in the church. If they are done in time, we will distribute them to the small groups (and throughout the church) so people can get an idea about some ministry areas that need to be filled.
Dean was planning to send me a "Spiritual Gifts Analysis Test" and as soon as I get it, I will pass it on to you. It might be a tool you can use for that 6th week?
We are looking for ideas for topics for the next 1:6 session meeting in the Winter/Spring. If you could, take an informal survey to see what people would like to study. We may or may not use them. But, it would give us an idea about what people are interested in.
1. The "Pastor" is the ADMINISTRATOR; the member are the MINISTERS
2. Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needsof others
3. God wants to use me to help the church grow.
The next 1:6 group night is November 25.
Remember we have 4 more 1:6 weeks (including this week, Nov. 11) and only 3 more lessons. Let me know if you need any ideas for the extra week.
Don't forget about the small group teleconference, November 14 @ 4 PM EST. Click HERE for more information. Please let me know if you would like to listen with me.
The Deacons have been working on job descriptions for all the ministries in the church. If they are done in time, we will distribute them to the small groups (and throughout the church) so people can get an idea about some ministry areas that need to be filled.
Dean was planning to send me a "Spiritual Gifts Analysis Test" and as soon as I get it, I will pass it on to you. It might be a tool you can use for that 6th week?
We are looking for ideas for topics for the next 1:6 session meeting in the Winter/Spring. If you could, take an informal survey to see what people would like to study. We may or may not use them. But, it would give us an idea about what people are interested in.
Weekly 1:6 Blog A
I want to make sure this information gets out as early as possible so there will be more later. Please check your email periodically over the weekend for the real "Weekly 1:6 Blog" updates.
Here are some discussion questions for 1:6 for Week 3, November 11.
1. Tell or demonstrate about something unusual that you can do that few people can do. (This goes along with Abilities)(Think of David Letterman's stupid pet tricks)
2. Tell of a place you have visited that no one else in the group has visited. (This goes along with different experiences people have had.)
3. Tell of someone, other than your spouse or children, who means a great deal.
Or . . .
Without naming names, describe someone who you think would benefit from an encouraging note.
(This goes along, somewhat, to our hearts)
4. If anyone is willing, tell the group what you think your spiritual gift(s) is/are.
(This goes along with spiritual gifts)
5. Go around the room and tell which of the following best describes them. (There should be reason to have to explain them before hand. Let each person describe why they think they are most like them.) (This goes along with personality)
Lion
Beaver
Golden Retriever
Otter
The above questions could be used this week and next time or only next time. Or, some this week and some next time. Whatever you want to do is fine.
Other questions for this week:
Tell of one thing about your physical appearance that you would like to ask God why he added it to you when he made you. (some probably won't like this question)
Name one or more mistakes that you have made in your life that you try to make sure no one else (especially your children or future children) does. This doesn't have to be personal - things like locking your keys in your car, etc. would be fine.)
I hope these help. I have struggled this week.
Here are some discussion questions for 1:6 for Week 3, November 11.
1. Tell or demonstrate about something unusual that you can do that few people can do. (This goes along with Abilities)(Think of David Letterman's stupid pet tricks)
2. Tell of a place you have visited that no one else in the group has visited. (This goes along with different experiences people have had.)
3. Tell of someone, other than your spouse or children, who means a great deal.
Or . . .
Without naming names, describe someone who you think would benefit from an encouraging note.
(This goes along, somewhat, to our hearts)
4. If anyone is willing, tell the group what you think your spiritual gift(s) is/are.
(This goes along with spiritual gifts)
5. Go around the room and tell which of the following best describes them. (There should be reason to have to explain them before hand. Let each person describe why they think they are most like them.) (This goes along with personality)
Lion
Beaver
Golden Retriever
Otter
The above questions could be used this week and next time or only next time. Or, some this week and some next time. Whatever you want to do is fine.
Other questions for this week:
Tell of one thing about your physical appearance that you would like to ask God why he added it to you when he made you. (some probably won't like this question)
Name one or more mistakes that you have made in your life that you try to make sure no one else (especially your children or future children) does. This doesn't have to be personal - things like locking your keys in your car, etc. would be fine.)
I hope these help. I have struggled this week.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Corrections, Teleconference
There was a correction or two on the previous posts. If you don't regually, you might want to go to www.rmconesix.blogspot.com and get the corrections. It isn't a big deal if you don't. But, it is available if you want to.
Would anyone like to join me for this:
I have registered and thought if any of you would like to come to the office we could put it on speaker phone. Let me know if you are coming.
Would anyone like to join me for this:
Explosive Small Groups!
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I have registered and thought if any of you would like to come to the office we could put it on speaker phone. Let me know if you are coming.
Weekly 1:6 Blog
Just another reminder that we are having a leader meeting this Sunday, November 4 at 8:45 AM in the church office.
I am working on questions today, but you might not get them until later. Right now I am having a block.
If there is any way to contact your group and remind them about the Thank-offering service this Sunday Evening, that would be good.
Remember, we won't meet again until November 11.
I am working on questions today, but you might not get them until later. Right now I am having a block.
If there is any way to contact your group and remind them about the Thank-offering service this Sunday Evening, that would be good.
Remember, we won't meet again until November 11.
Helpful Hints 3
JoHannah Reardon wrote an article at buildingsmallgroups.com about making our small group prayer time more meaningful. He talks about making our prayers more God-centered, praise-filled and life-changing. Here is how he begins his article.
Click HERE to read the entire article - it isn't too long.
We wrapped up our small group as we usually do, with a time for everyone to share their prayer requests. After we closed in prayer, Tom approached my husband and me. He was considering dropping out of our small group because he felt overwhelmed by the prayer requests. It seemed to him as though everyone's problems were insurmountable, and although we'd been praying for the same things for months, it didn't seem as though anyone's life was getting any better.
Tom's comment was a wake-up call about the way we handled the prayer time in our small group. My husband and I did some soul and Scripture searching to find out what we might be doing wrong. Nowhere in Scripture did we find prayers for Sally's arthritis, Mark's unruly children, or Bonnie's rotten work conditions. The prayers in the Bible were powerful and life-changing, full of God's power and glory.
. . . So should we ignore our problems and pretend they don't exist? Not at all. Instead, we should transform them by putting them into the bigger context of what God wants to do in our lives. We can still take the prayer requests, but consider praying for them in the following ways.
Click HERE to read the entire article - it isn't too long.
Monday, October 29, 2007
Don't "Box" Ministry
Something that came up in my 1:6 group that may or may not have come up in yours is the idea that when we talk about "ministry" in the church, we are talking about Sunday School teacher, usher, pianist, deacon, etc. I want you to know that while all these are definite parts of ministry, there are many other things that are ministries that don't require a title.
When talking about "Every Member is a Minister" I guess we should preface it with "Ministry is using what God gave me to serve him and others". There is NO title there. No one should be told to minister to God or to others, we just need to be doing it. If God has blessed you with being able to listen to others, then you need to seek ways in the church where that is what you do. If God has allowed you to go through a rough situation and someone else is now going through that same thing, go and comfort them. Don't ever wait for the Pastor/Administer to get a committee together, just do it.
We don't want 300 Sunday School teachers for a church of 350. God didn't give us all that gift. But we do want 300 people actively seeking ways to serve and minster to God and others.
There is a lot of good in the offices/committees/ministries that have been put in place at the church and the leadership needs to (and we are working on it) make sure people understand the importance of these ministries and make sure they function correctly. They provide opportunity for the Pastor/Administrator to teach people the work of ministry. However, these church organizations are NOT the sole ways that people can minister.
I guess what I am saying is that we don't want to put "ministry" into a box. Think outside the box when you are looking for ways to serve/minister.
When talking about "Every Member is a Minister" I guess we should preface it with "Ministry is using what God gave me to serve him and others". There is NO title there. No one should be told to minister to God or to others, we just need to be doing it. If God has blessed you with being able to listen to others, then you need to seek ways in the church where that is what you do. If God has allowed you to go through a rough situation and someone else is now going through that same thing, go and comfort them. Don't ever wait for the Pastor/Administer to get a committee together, just do it.
We don't want 300 Sunday School teachers for a church of 350. God didn't give us all that gift. But we do want 300 people actively seeking ways to serve and minster to God and others.
There is a lot of good in the offices/committees/ministries that have been put in place at the church and the leadership needs to (and we are working on it) make sure people understand the importance of these ministries and make sure they function correctly. They provide opportunity for the Pastor/Administrator to teach people the work of ministry. However, these church organizations are NOT the sole ways that people can minister.
I guess what I am saying is that we don't want to put "ministry" into a box. Think outside the box when you are looking for ways to serve/minister.
Quick Reminder
I will write more later, however I want to get this out early this week since I was sick last week and didn't send out a Thursday 1:6 Update.
More Thursday morning.
We will be meeting in the church office on this Sunday, November 4 at
8:45. Please bring a "roster" of those who have been attending your 1:6
group. Also, we will begin talking about the Winter/Spring session.
More Thursday morning.
Friday, October 19, 2007
1:6 Weekly Blog
I would like to get together again on Sunday November 4 at 8:45 AM in the church office. Let me know if that will NOT work for you.
Here are a few questions to begin 1:6 groups with this week, Sunday, October 21.
1. Share a time when you felt as though God wanted you to do something, act on something, etc. and you didn't. (This might be a bit too personal? ? ?)
2. Share about how someone you know who has a disability "copes" with that disability.
3. Share a talent (wacky or serious) that you have that few others can do.
4. Share a time when you willing disobeyed your parents. What was the result?
Three things from last time that I think we need to emphasize is
If you could remind your group about these three things weekly, that would be great.
Please remind people about next weeks GOTO. We need "tailgate food". Everything starts around 5 PM. Remember to wear a sports jersey, etc. if you have one.
The Thank Offering Service is November 4 at 7 PM. Chad Shaffer is speaking.
I have the student syllabus for week three done but will wait until after Sunday to put it in your mailboxes so it isn't confusing. The next 1:6 is Sunday, November 11.
Here are a few questions to begin 1:6 groups with this week, Sunday, October 21.
1. Share a time when you felt as though God wanted you to do something, act on something, etc. and you didn't. (This might be a bit too personal? ? ?)
2. Share about how someone you know who has a disability "copes" with that disability.
3. Share a talent (wacky or serious) that you have that few others can do.
4. Share a time when you willing disobeyed your parents. What was the result?
Three things from last time that I think we need to emphasize is
1. The "Pastor" is the ADMINISTRATOR; the member are the MINISTERS
2. Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needs
of others
3. God wants to use me to help the church grow.
If you could remind your group about these three things weekly, that would be great.
Please remind people about next weeks GOTO. We need "tailgate food". Everything starts around 5 PM. Remember to wear a sports jersey, etc. if you have one.
The Thank Offering Service is November 4 at 7 PM. Chad Shaffer is speaking.
I have the student syllabus for week three done but will wait until after Sunday to put it in your mailboxes so it isn't confusing. The next 1:6 is Sunday, November 11.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Helpful Hints on Thursday 2
Steve Gladen suggests that you only need to have obedience and a caring heart to be a good small group facilitator. In an interview with www.buildingsmallgroups.com, Steve answers questions like "What are some of the biggest challenges facilitators face?"; "What are good ways to deal with difficult people?"; and "How can we move from having shallow relationships to deeper relationships in our groups?" and much more.
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Weekly 1:6 Blog
Seems like 1:6 groups went pretty well . . . at least with those who I have talked with. Dean seemed pleased with the number of people who showed up . . . Aaron was excited (He usually is) with how his group went . . . We had some good discussions in my group . . .
I want to emphasize how important the announcements and prayer requests are that I will be sending out on the Thursdays before 1:6. We need to keep everyone updated and informed as much as possible. Also, if there are prayer requests from your group that can be shared with the pastoral team you could comment on the blog, email them to us or get them to us in another timely matter.
Three things from last week that I think we need to emphasize is
1. The "Pastor" is the ADMINISTRATOR; the member are the MINISTERS
2. Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needs of others
3. God wants to use me to help the church grow.
If you could remind your group about these three things weekly, that would be great.
Today I am working on getting the Student syllabus for week two in your mailboxes. I plan to do week three next Thursday so we will be a week ahead. I will do "crowd breaker questions" next Thursday.
Please let me know how your group went this past week.
I would like to get together again on Sunday November 4 at 8:45 AM in the church office. Let me know if that will NOT work for you.
I want to emphasize how important the announcements and prayer requests are that I will be sending out on the Thursdays before 1:6. We need to keep everyone updated and informed as much as possible. Also, if there are prayer requests from your group that can be shared with the pastoral team you could comment on the blog, email them to us or get them to us in another timely matter.
Three things from last week that I think we need to emphasize is
1. The "Pastor" is the ADMINISTRATOR; the member are the MINISTERS
2. Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needs of others
3. God wants to use me to help the church grow.
If you could remind your group about these three things weekly, that would be great.
Today I am working on getting the Student syllabus for week two in your mailboxes. I plan to do week three next Thursday so we will be a week ahead. I will do "crowd breaker questions" next Thursday.
Please let me know how your group went this past week.
I would like to get together again on Sunday November 4 at 8:45 AM in the church office. Let me know if that will NOT work for you.
Helpful Hints on Thursday
How to Lead a Small Group
10 practical suggestions to help Christians grow.
From the Church Leaders Answer Book
10 practical suggestions to help Christians grow.
From the Church Leaders Answer Book
The success of any small group starts with the leader. Effective leaders are not teachers or lecturers. They are facilitators and catalysts whose primary job is to get people to interact with each other. Almost anyone can lead a dynamic discussion by following certain guidelines.
1. Come to the study prepared. Ask God to help you understand and apply the passage to your own life. Unless that happens, you will not be ready to lead others. If you are using a good study guide, it will probably take you an hour to read the passage, work through each question in the guide, and become familiar with the leader's notes.
2. Pray for the members of your group before the study. If the Bible is to have an impact on their lives, the Holy Spirit must be at work in their hearts before, during, and after the study.
3. Begin the study on time. If people know the study begins on schedule, they will work harder to arrive on time.
4. Explain that the studies are meant to be discussions, not lectures. Encourage everyone to participate, but realize some may be hesitant to speak during the first few sessions.
5. Encourage more than one answer to each question. A good question should have more than one possible answer, and each person has his or her unique perspective. Ask, "What do the rest of you think?" or "Anyone else?" until several people have responded.
6. Affirm people's answers. People often are reluctant to speak up unless they know you appreciate their insights. Simple words such as "That's a great insight," "Good response," "Excellent idea," or "I hadn't thought of that before" are enough to show people you value their comments.
7. Don't be afraid of silence. It usually seems longer to you than to the other members of the group.
8. Resist the temptation to answer your own question. Rephrase the question until the group understands what you are asking. A group will become passive and silent if they think you will do most of the talking.
9. Never reject an answer, even if you think it is wrong. When you reject people's answers, they feel rejected as well, and they may decide it is too risky to give their opinion again. A better response would be, "Which verse led you to that conclusion?" Or let the group handle the problem by asking them what they think.
10. End the study on time. A healthy small group will do more than study the Bible together, so leave enough time for other activities such as sharing and prayer. If these are merely tacked on at the end, the health of the group will suffer.
Thursday, October 4, 2007
1:6 Leader Helps - Lively Discussions
I would encourage you to read the following. It is taken from www.buildingsmallgroups.com. You can find the entire article here.
Facilitating Lively Discussions
Learn from these often-overlooked keys to making the most of your small-group lessons.By Terry Powell
As a small-group leader, how you respond to group members' inquiries is important to the life of any discussion. What you say and do when they pose a question either enhances or stifles further group interaction. But responding to their questions is just one of a number of discussion-leading skills you'll need to cultivate. Other competencies have to do with your reaction to their answers to questions.
This article examines a taken-for-granted aspect of discussion-leading. Below, you'll find several important things to keep in mind when responding to group members' participation.
Exhibit enthusiasm
When you lead quality Bible discussions, people will find fresh, "I've never thought of that before" insights. In response to a study question, participants may notice a truth for the very first time, especially if they're recent converts. Then they verbalize their discovery for others to hear. As a leader, this is the time to reward their participation with positive reinforcement. Express excitement over their discoveries as if each one is new to you.
What you say right after someone contributes is crucial. If her point is elementary to you or something you've known for years, your instinct may be to gloss over it with polite acknowledgement. But your verbal reaction should express fascination with the participant's discovery! I'm not advocating mushy, superficial remarks or positive reinforcement of an incorrect response. But I am encouraging you to speak a few sentences that dignify legitimate answers. Give verbal applause that recognizes a person's textual investigation. Public congratulations will encourage people to keep delving into Scripture and participating in the discussion. Help them build confidence in their study skills and convince them that God's Spirit can unveil biblical truth to them.
Show sincerity
Here's the flipside of the positive reinforcement coin: Temper your enthusiasm in relation to the quality of a group member's answer. Indiscriminate praise without regard to the quality of their answers backfires because your commendations come across as insincere. Group members hesitate to give serious thought to a question if you treat every answer the same. So reserve the highest praise for the best answers, or for feedback that reveals critical thinking on the issue you're discussing. Also, be sure to praise participants for thought-provoking questions they raise and for input that shows an honest effort to wrestle with the text.
One way to show sincerity is to make your positive reinforcement as specific as possible. Which part of a group member's response hit the bull's eye? Notice how the following reinforcements shine the spotlight on distinctive aspects of learner contributions:
• "Excellent answer, Valerie. I like the way you referred to Jesus' words to support your conclusions."
• "Way to go, Bryan! You did a good job of putting Paul's remark in context."
By pointing out particular elements within learners' remarks, you motivate them to keep participating. You prove that you listened carefully to what was said.
Win with waiting
Brad takes pains to pepper his Bible study with thought-provoking questions. That's why the absence of stimulating discussion in his group puzzles him. The answers he receives are terse; seldom does anyone piggyback on the first response.
"Why aren't they more responsive?" Brad wonders aloud during a breakfast appointment with David—Brad's best friend and a member of the group. David decides to shoot straight with him.
"I don't think you're aware of how little time you give us to think after you pose a question," he says. "No more than a couple of seconds pass before you answer it yourself. Brad, you've already thought about your questions during the week. But the rest of us haven't."
When you pose a question, how long do you wait before answering it yourself or rephrasing it? How many seconds elapse before you feel obligated to get things moving? Do you view silence as a threat to effective discussion? Discussion leaders tend to answer questions themselves if no one responds within three to five seconds. But it often takes learners longer than that to examine a Bible passage and form a response.
One way to lower the amount of "wait time" that's needed is to have learners read verses on which a question is based before you ask it.
Notice the nonverbal
While leading a women's Bible study, Betty posed a question about secrets to contentment. The second she finished the probe, Betty shifted her eyes away from the group members to the notes in her lap. Elaine started to say something, but her interest evaporated when she noticed Betty's preoccupation with her notes. After a few seconds of silence, Betty looked up and answered the question herself, referring to a specific verse for support. Elaine had seen the same point in the text, and she had planned to illustrate it from her own experience.
Betty's poor eye contact hindered interaction. Whether you're engaged in a casual conversation or leading a Bible study, your communication comes across through three modes: actual words, tone of voice, and nonverbal cues. To maximize effectiveness, package your message in a way that utilizes all three avenues of expression.
During discussion time, when is your nonverbal communication most potent? When others are talking! As participants answer or ask questions, what message is your body language sending? Do you come across as tense or relaxed? Interested or impatient? What you say without speaking can either fan the flames of group participation or throw icy water on them. Take special note of these two nonverbal cues:
• Body movement and posture: If you're sitting in a circle, lean forward or inch closer to the edge of your chair whenever others contribute. They'll feel that you're listening with your heart, not just your ears.
• Facial Expressions and Eye Contact: In the Bible, one's "face" often represents the whole person, whether human or divine. When God's face shined upon Israel, he was blessing them.
When he turned his face away, he was withdrawing his favor. Why did the Holy Spirit use "face" as a metaphor for the sentiments of the heart? Perhaps it was because without the aid of words, one's face usually expresses his inner convictions or condition.
When your group members participate in a discussion, does your face convey boredom or enthusiasm? Do you nod to let them know you're following their line of thought? Do you rivet your eyes to the person who's talking or shift them back and forth between the participant and your notes? You may hear everything a group member says without looking at him, but listening requires eye contact.
Follow-up their feedback
Not all answers to your Bible-study questions are fully developed. Often a group member is onto something, but his comment needs clarification. Or what she says is fine as far as it goes, but needs elaboration. Follow responses of this sort with probing questions. Your follow-up probes should spur a group member to modify or expand his initial answer, beef up its support, illustrate it, or think more critically about it.
Probing for extensions of original answers is challenging. You need on-the-spot sensitivity because you can't prepare follow-up questions or comments in advance. Yet just being aware that follow-up questions can be helpful is a start toward using them.
Increase involvement
Some discussions are nothing more than a question-and-answer dialog between the leader and one other participant. Only one volunteer responds to a question before the leader kicks in with either commentary or the next question. Or a group member poses a question, and no one but the designated leader addresses it.
A discerning discussion leader broadens the base of involvement, especially when a question has several possible answers or during a brainstorming session on application ideas. She often encourages multiple responses to a question before adding her own research or going to the next question. When a participant asks a question, a good leader often taps the wisdom of others by redirecting the question to the rest of the group. The more mature and biblically literate your group, the more you should strive to expand participation.
Terry Powell is director of the Family and Church Education Program at Columbia International University in Columbia, South Carolina.
Excerpt from Now That's a Good Question by Terry Powell. © 2007 Standard Publishing, www.Standardpub.com. Used by permission.
Facilitating Lively Discussions
Learn from these often-overlooked keys to making the most of your small-group lessons.By Terry Powell
As a small-group leader, how you respond to group members' inquiries is important to the life of any discussion. What you say and do when they pose a question either enhances or stifles further group interaction. But responding to their questions is just one of a number of discussion-leading skills you'll need to cultivate. Other competencies have to do with your reaction to their answers to questions.
This article examines a taken-for-granted aspect of discussion-leading. Below, you'll find several important things to keep in mind when responding to group members' participation.
Exhibit enthusiasm
When you lead quality Bible discussions, people will find fresh, "I've never thought of that before" insights. In response to a study question, participants may notice a truth for the very first time, especially if they're recent converts. Then they verbalize their discovery for others to hear. As a leader, this is the time to reward their participation with positive reinforcement. Express excitement over their discoveries as if each one is new to you.
What you say right after someone contributes is crucial. If her point is elementary to you or something you've known for years, your instinct may be to gloss over it with polite acknowledgement. But your verbal reaction should express fascination with the participant's discovery! I'm not advocating mushy, superficial remarks or positive reinforcement of an incorrect response. But I am encouraging you to speak a few sentences that dignify legitimate answers. Give verbal applause that recognizes a person's textual investigation. Public congratulations will encourage people to keep delving into Scripture and participating in the discussion. Help them build confidence in their study skills and convince them that God's Spirit can unveil biblical truth to them.
Show sincerity
Here's the flipside of the positive reinforcement coin: Temper your enthusiasm in relation to the quality of a group member's answer. Indiscriminate praise without regard to the quality of their answers backfires because your commendations come across as insincere. Group members hesitate to give serious thought to a question if you treat every answer the same. So reserve the highest praise for the best answers, or for feedback that reveals critical thinking on the issue you're discussing. Also, be sure to praise participants for thought-provoking questions they raise and for input that shows an honest effort to wrestle with the text.
One way to show sincerity is to make your positive reinforcement as specific as possible. Which part of a group member's response hit the bull's eye? Notice how the following reinforcements shine the spotlight on distinctive aspects of learner contributions:
• "Excellent answer, Valerie. I like the way you referred to Jesus' words to support your conclusions."
• "Way to go, Bryan! You did a good job of putting Paul's remark in context."
By pointing out particular elements within learners' remarks, you motivate them to keep participating. You prove that you listened carefully to what was said.
Win with waiting
Brad takes pains to pepper his Bible study with thought-provoking questions. That's why the absence of stimulating discussion in his group puzzles him. The answers he receives are terse; seldom does anyone piggyback on the first response.
"Why aren't they more responsive?" Brad wonders aloud during a breakfast appointment with David—Brad's best friend and a member of the group. David decides to shoot straight with him.
"I don't think you're aware of how little time you give us to think after you pose a question," he says. "No more than a couple of seconds pass before you answer it yourself. Brad, you've already thought about your questions during the week. But the rest of us haven't."
When you pose a question, how long do you wait before answering it yourself or rephrasing it? How many seconds elapse before you feel obligated to get things moving? Do you view silence as a threat to effective discussion? Discussion leaders tend to answer questions themselves if no one responds within three to five seconds. But it often takes learners longer than that to examine a Bible passage and form a response.
One way to lower the amount of "wait time" that's needed is to have learners read verses on which a question is based before you ask it.
Notice the nonverbal
While leading a women's Bible study, Betty posed a question about secrets to contentment. The second she finished the probe, Betty shifted her eyes away from the group members to the notes in her lap. Elaine started to say something, but her interest evaporated when she noticed Betty's preoccupation with her notes. After a few seconds of silence, Betty looked up and answered the question herself, referring to a specific verse for support. Elaine had seen the same point in the text, and she had planned to illustrate it from her own experience.
Betty's poor eye contact hindered interaction. Whether you're engaged in a casual conversation or leading a Bible study, your communication comes across through three modes: actual words, tone of voice, and nonverbal cues. To maximize effectiveness, package your message in a way that utilizes all three avenues of expression.
During discussion time, when is your nonverbal communication most potent? When others are talking! As participants answer or ask questions, what message is your body language sending? Do you come across as tense or relaxed? Interested or impatient? What you say without speaking can either fan the flames of group participation or throw icy water on them. Take special note of these two nonverbal cues:
• Body movement and posture: If you're sitting in a circle, lean forward or inch closer to the edge of your chair whenever others contribute. They'll feel that you're listening with your heart, not just your ears.
• Facial Expressions and Eye Contact: In the Bible, one's "face" often represents the whole person, whether human or divine. When God's face shined upon Israel, he was blessing them.
When he turned his face away, he was withdrawing his favor. Why did the Holy Spirit use "face" as a metaphor for the sentiments of the heart? Perhaps it was because without the aid of words, one's face usually expresses his inner convictions or condition.
When your group members participate in a discussion, does your face convey boredom or enthusiasm? Do you nod to let them know you're following their line of thought? Do you rivet your eyes to the person who's talking or shift them back and forth between the participant and your notes? You may hear everything a group member says without looking at him, but listening requires eye contact.
Follow-up their feedback
Not all answers to your Bible-study questions are fully developed. Often a group member is onto something, but his comment needs clarification. Or what she says is fine as far as it goes, but needs elaboration. Follow responses of this sort with probing questions. Your follow-up probes should spur a group member to modify or expand his initial answer, beef up its support, illustrate it, or think more critically about it.
Probing for extensions of original answers is challenging. You need on-the-spot sensitivity because you can't prepare follow-up questions or comments in advance. Yet just being aware that follow-up questions can be helpful is a start toward using them.
Increase involvement
Some discussions are nothing more than a question-and-answer dialog between the leader and one other participant. Only one volunteer responds to a question before the leader kicks in with either commentary or the next question. Or a group member poses a question, and no one but the designated leader addresses it.
A discerning discussion leader broadens the base of involvement, especially when a question has several possible answers or during a brainstorming session on application ideas. She often encourages multiple responses to a question before adding her own research or going to the next question. When a participant asks a question, a good leader often taps the wisdom of others by redirecting the question to the rest of the group. The more mature and biblically literate your group, the more you should strive to expand participation.
Terry Powell is director of the Family and Church Education Program at Columbia International University in Columbia, South Carolina.
Excerpt from Now That's a Good Question by Terry Powell. © 2007 Standard Publishing, www.Standardpub.com. Used by permission.
Reminders and Announcements for 1:6
The "Student" sheets are in your mailboxes (since Tuesday). They are a half sheet, front and back. If anyone needs a larger edition, let me know.
Also in your mailboxes are the sign-up sheets and a couple "get connected" fold overs. Please have a couple people take one of those and have them invite someone else to come to a 1:6 group.
We are planning to meet in the church office on Sunday for about 15 minutes or so for prayer and last minute stuff at 8:55 AM.
Let me know if we need anything else. I am really not good at thinking ahead.
Prayer for 1:6 groups:
Tonight's prayer focus for the church is the different women's Bible studies at the church, the college students and the AWANA Program.
There will be a bunch of teens going to "Scare Mare" in Lynchburg on Oct 20 - 21. Please pray for this trip. Some of the kids are unchurched.
Some announcements for 1:6 groups:
Next Sunday is Communion Sunday.
The next 1:6 group meeting night is October 21.
One way you could begin to use what God gave you to minister is to sign up to be on the "GOTO Crew". This is for everyone. We need greeters, idea people, publicity people, workers (for set up, tear down, etc.), technical people, and prayer people. We are looking for people who will talk with guests about the evening in the hopes that the conversation will lead to a decision for Christ. We could use some people who would just be available on GOTO nights to be "gophers". If any of these things fits what God has given you, then we would like you to talk to Aaron. He will be able to give you more information.
Our next GOTO night on October 28 will be a sports related theme. Yaccov Yisreal, a former Penn State football player and current Pittsburgh River Rats football player will be our special guest. There is a good possibility that we will have a former Penn State field hockey player as well. We are planning to have a "tail gate" fellowship in the Family Life Center beginning around 5:30. We are asking people to bring some sort of tail-gating food item(s) to share. Also, if you would like, wear some sort of sports jersey that evening. There are plans for a sports trivia game, video or two and an interview with Yaccov. Pastor Paul will conclude the evening with a talk about "de fence". Invite some people to come along with you to this unique, fun and energetic evening.
Also in your mailboxes are the sign-up sheets and a couple "get connected" fold overs. Please have a couple people take one of those and have them invite someone else to come to a 1:6 group.
We are planning to meet in the church office on Sunday for about 15 minutes or so for prayer and last minute stuff at 8:55 AM.
Let me know if we need anything else. I am really not good at thinking ahead.
Prayer for 1:6 groups:
Tonight's prayer focus for the church is the different women's Bible studies at the church, the college students and the AWANA Program.
There will be a bunch of teens going to "Scare Mare" in Lynchburg on Oct 20 - 21. Please pray for this trip. Some of the kids are unchurched.
Some announcements for 1:6 groups:
Next Sunday is Communion Sunday.
The next 1:6 group meeting night is October 21.
One way you could begin to use what God gave you to minister is to sign up to be on the "GOTO Crew". This is for everyone. We need greeters, idea people, publicity people, workers (for set up, tear down, etc.), technical people, and prayer people. We are looking for people who will talk with guests about the evening in the hopes that the conversation will lead to a decision for Christ. We could use some people who would just be available on GOTO nights to be "gophers". If any of these things fits what God has given you, then we would like you to talk to Aaron. He will be able to give you more information.
Our next GOTO night on October 28 will be a sports related theme. Yaccov Yisreal, a former Penn State football player and current Pittsburgh River Rats football player will be our special guest. There is a good possibility that we will have a former Penn State field hockey player as well. We are planning to have a "tail gate" fellowship in the Family Life Center beginning around 5:30. We are asking people to bring some sort of tail-gating food item(s) to share. Also, if you would like, wear some sort of sports jersey that evening. There are plans for a sports trivia game, video or two and an interview with Yaccov. Pastor Paul will conclude the evening with a talk about "de fence". Invite some people to come along with you to this unique, fun and energetic evening.
Monday, October 1, 2007
Everyone is Verified - 1:6 Groups Start Sunday Night
It looks like everyone has now verified their email and will get the updates in their inbox as I post them. If you ever need to go to the website, the address is www.rmconesix.blogspot.com.
I will normally be posting and working on 1:6 groups on Thursday mornings. However, this week I will be working tomorrow as well. I will hopefully have "student" worksheets in your mailbox by Wednesday night - if you want to get them before Sunday.
Please let me know if there is anything else you need.
Remember, we are planning to meet this Sunday morning, October 7 in the office. Wives are included in these meeting if they desire.
I will normally be posting and working on 1:6 groups on Thursday mornings. However, this week I will be working tomorrow as well. I will hopefully have "student" worksheets in your mailbox by Wednesday night - if you want to get them before Sunday.
Please let me know if there is anything else you need.
Remember, we are planning to meet this Sunday morning, October 7 in the office. Wives are included in these meeting if they desire.
Friday, September 28, 2007
Week One Question Suggestions
"Ministry is using whatever God has given me to serve him and the needs of others."
When we talk about finding your ministry we're saying what has God given me? That's where it starts. What He's given me He
expects me to use in serving Him and the needs of others.
When we talk about finding your ministry we're saying what has God given me? That's where it starts. What He's given me He
expects me to use in serving Him and the needs of others.
Here is a list of questions for week one 1:6. You don't have to use all or any of the questions listed. If anyone has any good questions, please comment on this post. I will have printed this list and put them in your mailbox at church.
I have also listed a suggestion of an object lesson for week two or later if you like. It is only a suggestion.
I have also listed a suggestion of an object lesson for week two or later if you like. It is only a suggestion.
Week ONE Question Suggestions for 1:6 Groups:
Growing up, what was some things your parents made you do (chores, a behavior)
Describe a team or organization that succeeded even though they were not the most talented.
What types of people do you have the hardest time relating to?
What is one talent that you see in others that you don’t do well, but wish you could?
Describe a Time when someone helped you do something that you didn’t have the resources or the ability to do.
Suggestion for week two or any week following:
List the ingredients for a cake on individual index cards. One ingredient per card.
Have each person (or family) take a card and ask them to bring that ingredient to the next 1:6 group meeting.
At the beginning of the meeting, mix the ingredients for the cake and put it in the oven for later. Talk about how each ingredient, by itself is not generally tasty, but added together they make a good cake.
Eat the cake at the end of the 1:6 group or give it to someone who would appreciate it.
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Crowdbreaker Ideas
Today I am working on small group "crowd breaker" ideas. I will have the first weeks' ideas to everyone by Sunday, hopefully. Let me know if you have any ideas as well. I could use the help.
Monday, September 24, 2007
RMC 1:6 Group Leaders New Blog
This is the first post for the RMC 1:6 Group Leaders. I would like to use this as an informational spot for the group leaders. I will have added each of you as subscribers to this blog. All this means is that if you will verify your email, you will recieve these posts in your inbox. I will be using this ONLY for 1:6 Leaders information. I won't be loading your inbox with junk or frivolous stuff. However, I would like this to be the way we communicate in between meetings. Let me know if this won't work for you.
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